One Question That Changes Everything About How You Lead:
She’s been told three times now — get your voice in the room. Share your perspective earlier. Stop waiting for everyone else to weigh in first.
She knows they’re right — and she has strong opinions. She often knows exactly what she thinks before the meeting starts. And yet something happens when she gets in the room. She waits, she listens, and she finds herself nodding along to someone else’s version of what she already believed — and never quite says her own.
It’s not fear exactly. She can’t explain it. She just keeps doing it.
That’s because she’s working at the wrong layer. While it’s simple and easy to see a behavior that could be optimized, like speaking up more, it’s much less obvious why it’s so hard to successfully make the shift. And this is exactly why behavioral feedback alone — no matter how clear or well-intentioned — often doesn't create lasting change.
