The Hidden Layer
You identified an aspect of you that you’d like to change. You named it. You committed to doing it differently. And for a while you did. Then something happened — a high-stakes moment, a difficult person, a bad week — and there it was again. That's not weakness. That's what happens when you only work above the waterline.
Most leaders are only working on the top 10-20% —identifying a behavior; maybe some personality. Just like with the iceberg, this is the small portion that's visible — to others and to themselves. If only it was this easy. If all it took was someone saying 'I wish you'd let me finish before jumping in' — and you could simply receive that and change — we'd all be walking around as perfect versions of ourselves.
But sadly that’s not how it works. There's an entire architecture underneath our behaviors that most leaders have never been introduced to.
