Where Your Patterns Come From
The morning after I arrived at the Hoffman Process, I went for a walk.
I wasn’t sure what I was expecting from the week ahead. I knew I was in pain. I knew I was there to do some kind of deep work. I knew I had patterns — I’d been coaching long enough to know that much about myself. What I didn’t expect was what happened on that walk.
I noticed, for the first time, that every single thought I was having was about someone else.
What they needed. How they were feeling. What they thought of me. Whether someone was okay. What I should text someone to ensure a response. Every thought — outward. Not one pointed inward. Not one genuine check-in with myself. I didn’t even know what I was feeling. I just knew what everyone else was.
For a leadership coach who’d spent years helping others develop self-awareness, that was a significant moment of reckoning.
And it was just the beginning.
